Relationship Manual

3 words to describe me:

Connection: deep connections with others
Creativity: making, writing, art
Exploration: exploring learning, places, relationships, having curiosity, taking chances

Relationships:

No set relationship style, focus on finding the right relationship fit for each connection, exploring what it means to have relationships built on curiosity, love, and acceptance.
Low-pressure polyamorous relationships based on shared values + interests.
Queering Love
It's important to me to be open to possibility. To not be attached to outcomes, to let love grow organically. To be open to anarchy, nesting, and everything in between. This requires open communication and shared values and setting expectations and boundaries and being honest when things change.

Besides romantic relationships, I have friends and family and passions. When I'm at my best, I find balance.

My Queer Family: more important that bio, not sexual
Jared: a soul mate, not necessarily sexual, we come together a few times a year
Pets: I'm responsible for their well-being, and they anchor me to place
Synagogue: no romantic ties, but I have some responsibility for being present and maintaining the wellness of the community

Identities:

Queer - outlook
Panromantic - romantically interested in all genders
Demisexual - need relationship to feel attraction
Kink-adjacent - currently no roles/dynamics/needs, do enjoy physical restriction, clothing
Nonbinary - genderless, complicated internal relationship to my gender/body
AUDHD - impacts communication, sense of time, need for touch, sensory limitations

Family:

1 sister + brother in law
some cousins
Parents - there was some neglect, alcoholism, it's hard to be around heavy drinking, loud people, fights, still have some insecurities around abandonment/acceptance, have been building models/examples of healthy relationships

Relationship Patterns:

I usually take time to warm up to people and need to go on a few dates before I know I'm attracted to them. I can struggle with communication if I'm worried about being rejected, "getting into trouble." I like to be able to escape from the world with partners and quality time is very important to me. Parallel play is great; I like partners to have their own interests and passions, and I love to hear about them.